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(March 29th, 2013, 15:07)Twinkletoes89 Wrote: (March 29th, 2013, 12:43)novice Wrote: Anyway, I think Seven is in Seattle.
If he is, tell him to phone into a radio show saying how bad he feels. Then plan a trip to the Empire State Building and all your relationship troubles will be over.
Ok that's the only advice I have from films.
Seriously, I think you've already been given most of the advice there is to give on this. Breakups suck, just keep yourself occupied with things to stop you thinking and just live in the moment for a bit. If there's something you want to do, just do it and see where it takes you.
Or go on civ and put a massive population city in your empire and just whip it over and over until you feel better
But whipping really large cities makes me SAD!   not to mention stacking whip anger. 
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Oh, I'm kicking myself for not remembering this. This is always good for a smile:
http://www.homestarrunner.com/
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March 30th, 2013, 05:55
(This post was last modified: March 30th, 2013, 05:57 by Fintourist.)
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I guess it's a rule of life that everytime when one is in a relationship, part of you wants to be single, and when you're single part of you longs for a relationship. Now, after a short dark period, you have a great chance to enjoy again the other side of the coin! My previous relationship (that ended after 3 years) fits reasonably well with what you described: In the end cumulated anger from unresolved issues just overweighted our improvement efforts. So based on my experiences: At first the break-up hurts and sucks, but my guess is that relatively soon you start to feel a wave of relief, because you realize that you two were not the perfect fit and there is someone out there who is the one real match for you. And again, before you team up with a girl, who has the UU and UB that synergize perfectly with your leader traits, being a single for a while can also be a lot of fun.
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(March 30th, 2013, 05:55)Fintourist Wrote: soon you start to feel a wave of relief, because you realize that you two were not the perfect fit and there is someone out there who is the one real match for you.
Based on my experience, this is a really dangerous attitude. I've known a couple guys who were in a complete panic before their weddings, saying, essentially, "What if someone better comes along?"
A relationship is not built on perfect compatibility, but on shared goals, priorities, and experiences. Both partners must be willing to work past the inevitable bad times. Rather than look for the "perfect fit", I think it's better to look for someone who is "good enough". After a long time together, that person will *be* your ideal partner, because you have been through so much together.
On the original topic: spending time with friends is good advice. Spend time doing things you love; physical activities are good. Helping other people (soup kitchens, hospital volunteer, etc.) can also help your mood a lot.
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(March 28th, 2013, 15:27)SevenSpirits Wrote: Just broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years. She's a really cool person. The two of us fought unproductively. We discussed things well and got much better at things, but it was too slow. The legacy of the fighting built up and overshadowed our improvements too much.
I've noticed at times that I've been irritable and short here due to bad moments in real life. Sorry about that.
I'm OK right now, but obviously sad, and a bit lost. Anyone have any happy resources to trade?
Hey Seven,
I'd say a lot of us have been there and can feel where you are coming from. My recent disappearance from the site was not due to being bored with civ!
I found it helped to sometimes just get it out. I recommend on a 1-2-1 basis with someone whose opinion you trust and who is sensible enough to tell you what you need to hear, not what they think you want to hear. In all sincerity, if you need anything, PM me and we can chat.
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(April 1st, 2013, 13:10)DaveV Wrote: Based on my experience, this is a really dangerous attitude.
I think you are reading it too literally. I'm not really saying that there exists only one perfect match per one person. What I'm saying that at least I realized after ending my previous relationship that we weren't simply a match for life and there definitely exist somebody who fits better to me. Now I believe that I could possibly be in my very last relationship and my girlfriend (nor me or we as a couple) is definitely not flawless... 
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