me: hi
Lord Parkin: hi there what's up?
me: Just got me wondering. Now you've OB with Rego? I thought that wasn't the plan. We had a plan to act ~T170
Lord Parkin: He made me an offer I couldn't refuse... he's not getting that much out of it, don't worry
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me: Made my closign bprders totally useless. I better of oprening them again
Lord Parkin: We had a plan? We'd discussed it, but neither of us committed. I got the impression we were more interested than you were. Anyway, temporary OB doesn't mean the option isn't still there. Are you actually genuinely interested in warring with Rego though?
me: Yeah we discussded about it, but didn't make any detailed plans. I was just surprised to find you getting Bananas and OB
Lord Parkin: Well yeah, I wasn't going to accept straight OB with Rego, I made that clear to him the past hundred or so turns. This was the first time he came with an offer of anything more than OB for OB.
Well if you want to discuss it more seriously, I'm open to that... you just seem to be a bit non-committal regarding it.
me: ok. So are you still intrested in to attack ~T170? I'll have Machinery soon and in vassalage wihtout anyone to attack against
Lord Parkin: I'd need to be sure you were genuinely interested in fighting first, not just getting us involved in a war. Would also need firm commitment to a longer NAP between us. I've been getting a bit of a feeling that you've been distancing yourself from us lately, so I'd need to be sure we were in it together.
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But yes, it could be an option
me: I'm not intrested in prolonging the NAP
Lord Parkin: Ok, well to me that says a great deal about your intentions. How are we supposed to commit to a war against a common enemy when our NAP will end very shortly after that war?
me: We've a NAP for 50T that is plenty
Frankly I'm not pleased after seeing your territory
Lord Parkin: well looking at things realistically, how long do you expect a war with Rego to last? It's going to be at least 10-20 turns. That already brings us up to min 190.
me: "Luddite settled towards me" statements make me laugh
I was again pissed you gave OB to Rego
Lord Parkin: Eh? Luddite had claimed a lot of land in my area. We later re-discussed a border which is closer to what you see now, before any cities were founded. What's that got to do with you anyway?
me: right after I had told you that it had minor impact on him
Lying is the key work
Lord Parkin: I didn't have any agreement with you surrounding OB with Rego. I don't see why you should have control over whether we accept favourable deals from other civs.
It's only temporary anyway
me: None, but few turns before we had talked about attacking him and I was as commited as you
Just check the chat
Lord Parkin: hmm, I got the impression your interest in that trailed off more recently... will check the chat log though
OB does nothing to prevent an attack though
me: Sure
Lord Parkin: For the record, I haven't been entirely happy about how our relationship has played out either. When we originally made our arrangement, you were far and away the #1 dominant civ, which was fine. I'm okay with having a stronger partner - I've had many such games before. However, lately I've been wondering if you're only okay with a partnership as long as you're the #1 partner. Now your perspective may be different, and perhaps I'm reading too much into too little, but it's the feeling I've been getting lately.
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Just my 2 cents anyway
Feels like you've been a bit cold towards us since we switched places on the scoreboard, at least to me.
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We're still both strong civs, and I think we could still have a lot of fun and accomplish a lot together. But only if we're both willing...
A partnership can't work if only one partner is willing to commit
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Sorry if this comes across as being heavy/mean - not my intention. Just trying to be honest with you so we have a chance to fix things.
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Perhaps there's things about our partnership you'd like to see fixed too? Feel free to comment...
me: You've it right. I've been colder. Granted some part of it is definately you being #1 or at least the timing of it. I've been a long time bothered by the lies you used to get the border agreement. I also didn't like the way you helped WK or how you now right after we had discussed about me closing borders to hurt Rego opened them again
Lord Parkin: The OB with Rego was actually just unfortunate timing. Rego had made the Banana offer to me before you closed borders, and then told me you'd closed them just as I'd finalised the OB deal with Rego. You have to understand that all up until that point in the game, I was pretty much the only one continually denying Rego OB. If I'd known beforehand that someone else would stand with me then I'd have reconsidered opening them. So it was just an unrelated incident of bad timing. I'm sorry you felt hard done by by it.
It wasn't ever my intention to leave you "out of the loop" there. I never knew you were even considering closing borders with him until too late.
Lord Parkin: Regarding WK, I did help him out, but it was part of a two-way deal. I didn't have any quarrel with the guy, and he made me a reasonable offer, so I accepted. You might have done the same in my position.
Changing the outcome of the war (and I doubt it did that at all) really wasn't the purpose.
As for the border agreement, I don't see how you think we "lied" about it. You mentioned you felt we lied about the status of our arrangement with Luddite, but that was actually completely the truth at the time. You weren't exactly forthcoming with how much land you had in other directions either. I don't think either of us should hold general cageyness in border arrangements against the other, though - I'm pretty sure everyone negotiates that way.
except maybe Adlain
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And of course, with the #1 thing... well, both civs in a partnership can't be #1 at the same time. I kind of hoped we could rise above that and not dislike one another simply because of our relative positions. I never held it against you when you were rolling way ahead.
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me: Things are not black and white and every incident alone wouldn't be a big deal. But when you start counting everything up it does seem quite a lot. Here is e.g. reminder what you said while we negotiated about our 1st NAP: "Basically it's a little closer to your territory than ours, but we're pretty much limited to expanding directly south. Luddite has laid claim to a lot of territory to our east."
Doesn't seem much of truth to me no matter how you look at it
He didn't have a single city on his capital's east while I had a scout there long after this
Lord Parkin: he had laid claim to it though, he just hadn't settled it yet because there was better land in other directions. At the time the understanding was that I was not permitted to settle there, in return for peace.
yes, I later renegotiated a more favourable arrangement, but at the time I was genuinely constricted in my expansion options without provoking hostility
me: I've also other version of the story, but needless to say there is room for misinterpretations. Clearly you were indicating you don't have room and you need it towards us
Lord Parkin: That was how I felt at the time I was negotiating the border with you. I don't see why you should hold it against me that - later on - I managed to negotiate more land from Luddite.
Anyway, I guess we could go over this for hours (as seems typical for us
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), and I've still got to get some work done at some point...
me: As Isaid this incident alone wouldn't be a big deal
but I guess I'll start warming up my relationship with Rego
It might be hard after this
Lord Parkin: Ok, it just seems that you're almost grasping at straws to dislike us in some cases. A whole lot of little nitpicks, most of which were either never an issue or were resolved at the time (e.g. Gems error).
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me: That just described the attitude
Lord Parkin: Maybe I'm reading it wrong though
me: towrads us
no need to keep the deals
You can elay things as you like
No matter how we need them
It is just how you needed them
Lord Parkin: I'm not quite sure what you mean
ok, got it now
me: If you read the chats from that time. It was just excuses and I needed to fight to get the gems
Lord Parkin: reading tired, sorry
it was a valid screwup though, resulting from the 10-turn limit on trades
me: Wh yshould that affected to us?
Lord Parkin: well it was my mistake, and so it was on me to fix it, which I did by sending Gems since I couldn't free Ivory in time
me: Again not a big deal as a separate incident
But it accumulates
At some point There is too much
Lord Parkin: Well I'm sorry these little mistakes have affected you so much
Of course I'm not sure the little things would be bothering you so much if you were still the #1 partner
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me: Probably not
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Lord Parkin: So you're kind of admitting that these are your "excuses" then, right?
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me: They're not ecuses I've been bothered by them for a long time
You can check my thread afterwards
Lord Parkin: okay... well not sure what I can do except apologise for the absent-mindedness that has resulted in many of these annoyances.
like I've said before, I wouldn't intentionally bother annoying you over such small unimportant things. I'd either go all out or not at all.
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me: ok. That is alright. I didn't meant to start this dicussion, but somehow founding OB for Rego just made me see red
As a final straw
Just when I've messed my relationship with him
where you had sa big part why that happened
Lord Parkin: Ok, sorry about that. Wish you'd approached me a turn or two earlier about it, because I would have been glad to have someone standing with me on the closed borders front. After all game of keeping them closed and no-one else doing so though, I didn't see any reason to keep going when Rego finally made me a fair offer, so I accepted. Truly bad timing.
me: It was some 4T ago
You had the deal already then?
Lord Parkin: Rego had asked what he could offer to get OB. I said Banana, and he said he'd get back to me. A few turns later he said ok. Couldn't very well turn him down from an offer I'd already made...
It was still up in the air when you told me you'd closed borders with him
me: Makes sense although I wouldn't expect anyone to accept, if I delay my response for few turns. I should stop nit picking though. This isn't leading anywhere
Lord Parkin: Yeah, I would have preferred to stand with you against him on the closed borders front if I'd known, but as things turned out I didn't feel I could go back on my word in such a short time frame.
Yeah, we're going nowhere
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Basically, I think the summary of our ongoing partnership is: We're willing to work closer with you (against Rego/whoever), but at least a token gesture like a small NAP extension would be required. I'd be happy to offer a friendly gesture myself in return, like for instance free resource gift(s). It really comes down to you though, if you're really set on not working with us then I can't convince you otherwise.
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Not sure you'll get offers of free resources from any other civ in the game at this point
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In fact I'm fairly sure you won't, though you're welcome to try your luck :D
me: Probaby not, but acute need for them takes few turns now that WW has been solved and I've soon some silk tiles online that I could try trade
Although there aren't many around intrested in them
Lord Parkin: yeah, Silk seems fairly common I think
me: Gems is more common
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Lord Parkin: yeah, you guys got a bit unlucky there
me: And you quite lucky
Lord Parkin: yeah, the map maker was reasonably generous in my area... though there are quite a few other good spots too
probably a few of those resources should have been shifted 5-10 tiles further south
oh well, not much that can be done now
me: Map doesn't need to be totally balanced so this i s ok. However I thikn our spot ws one of the worst. WK's was probably a bit weker than ours so I had to be graateful for that at least
Lord Parkin: then again I had other limitations like complete lack of contact for ages
yeah, you guys were a bit cramped there relative to the rest of the map
me: In NTT games contacts are not that crucial
Lord Parkin: research bonus...
me: In TT games they easily define the end result
With 10 people not too big bonus
Lord Parkin: yeah, sure... it's still good to get contact early in NTT though
there's also the early alliances aspect, though it's not quite as pronounced without TT
still always the fact that the first guy to meet someone has a better shot at negotiating an early alliance, simply because that person doesn't have anyone else to talk to...
plus everyone knows little of the map at that point so initially wants to be friends
me: True
Lord Parkin: as opposed to the guys you meet last who have a better idea and tend to be more cagey
though of course there are exceptions
me: Sure in our case we had totally unco-operative neighbor in the beginning
Lord Parkin: Indeed, quite unusual there
me: Might be better that way since at this point with normal border agreemsents we would be royally screwed
Lord Parkin: hmm, I guess so
me: Way worse position than e.g. Nakor is now
They had at least some off shore places to go
Lord Parkin: hmm, maybe
you could have expanded a bit more towards Rego
me: It would have been Greece's land mostly
The land bridge goes toeards NE
Very hard to calim land that land to be ours
if WK was there
Lord Parkin: internet glitch, back
me: np
Lord Parkin: Greece's land bridge doesn't connect until quite far north though
pretty sure you would have got the majority up there
but still, not as good as some starts
me: Yeah. We might have been able to get there soon enough, but the quality isn't anything stellar either
No happiness resources. Couple of pigs and copper
Lord Parkin: the map seems to be a bit like that though, everyone seems to have some "nice" patches and "average to crap" patches. You had some quite awesome spots right near your start, for instance, while we had to found quite far away for any decent land (costly in maintenance)
but yeah, nothing special up to your NE it seems
who knows though, maybe a later-game resource...
me: They're alright, but I don't think your spots are that much weaker either
This feels like reverse beauty contest
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Lord Parkin: lol
Overall though, I like the map. Feels very "natural", and looks good. Just a couple of minor start relocations, a few resource touch-ups, and it would be perfect.
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Best map I've seen in a long time though, possibly ever
I've done mirror maps which are perfectly balanced, but they look boring as hell...
me: yeah. It is good enough, but it is always fun to complain
Lord Parkin: hehe, yeah